Do you always masturbate in the same way? Would you like to enjoy different types of orgasms but don’t know where to start? Then get inspired by these ten solo sex ideas for female pleasure.
1. Set the mood and listen to a sexy story
Before you get your clit-tapping finger at the ready, take some time to set the mood. That might involve lighting some candles, running a hot bath, or simply tidying up and removing distractions.
Once you’ve got a comfortable environment, it’ll be a lot easier to kick-start your desire and arousal. You could do this by losing yourself in a naughty fantasy, looking at some erotic photos or films or listening to some audio erotica.
Not only can sexy stories increase your sex drive, they allow you to explore different desires and fetishes in a totally safe and noncommital way. The Emjoy app has over 400 erotic stories featuring diverse characters and storylines to light your fire. So check them out to get your juices flowing.
2. Use lots of lube
There’s a misconception that lubricants are just for older women or for sex after menopause, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. No matter our age, the amount of lubrication our vaginas make can be affected by several factors, including our arousal levels and hormones.
Using lubricant can make sex more comfortable and enjoyable as your fingers or sex toys will glide over your skin with less friction, allowing you to focus on the super good feels you’re experiencing.
3. Experiment with edging
If you’d like to try a new sex technique that can intensify your orgasms, edging might be just the thing for you.
In a nutshell, edging is a sex technique where you tease yourself until you’re just about to cum but then you stop. Once your arousal subsides, you masturbate again until you’re just on the brink of an orgasm. This cycle can be repeated as many times as you like before finally letting yourself enjoy a mega orgasm. To find out more, read this guide on how to edge.
4. Give shallowing a go
Shallowing is a sex technique that involves penetrating just inside the entrance of the vagina with a finger, sex toy, penis, tongue, or lips. Doing this stimulates the G-zone, an erogenous area located around 2-3 cm inside the vagina.
For some women, this technique is more intense than deeper penetration and orgasm can be achieved from stimulating this area through gentle and soft motions. In fact, according to a study, around 84% of women find vaginal penetration more pleasurable with shallowing.
To find out more about how to do it, check out Emjoy’s guide to shallowing.
5. Experiment with squirting
You might have seen videos of porn stars squirting copious amounts of clear liquid that have left you questioning whether squirting actually exists. Well, yes it does, although, usually with a lot more stimulation and less liquid than you might see in porn.
If you’re interested in trying it out, check out our beginner’s guide to squirting. And if it doesn’t happen for you don’t worry. It won’t happen for everyone and even if it does, some women find that they don’t enjoy it. Having said that, trying to squirt can be a fantastic way to explore your body and will help you to find out more about your likes and dislikes, and that is always valuable.
6. Get hot and steamy with a showergasm
This next solo sex idea will leave you both super wet and squeaky clean. Here’s how to do it:
Next time you’re in the bath or shower, sit, stand or lie down and bring the (detachable) shower head close to your body. Move your hands down, and find your vulva. Allow the water to pass through your outer lips and play with different water pressures. If you find something that feels good, spend some time there enjoying those sensations.
Then little by little, with your free hand, open your outer lips, leaving your clitoris a little exposed, and explore how it feels to stimulate this area. Move the shower-head in circular motions, from the top to the bottom of your vulva. Again, if you find something that’s enjoyable, keep doing it and enjoy the delights of the showergasm!
7. Touch your clit in a different way
It probably goes without saying that one of the easiest ways to achieve female orgasm is by stimulating the clit. And even though it’s tempting to always use the same technique to climax, there’s more than one way to enjoy clitoral orgasms.
First of all, you can mix up your strokes. So if you normally use circular motions, why not try zig-zags or up-and-down movements? Or if you usually rub, why not tap your clit? You can also gently squeeze your clit between your thumb and index finger and move the skin of your clitoral hood up and down – kind of like a hand job for your clit.
And you don’t just have to stick to using your hands in your solo sex sessions. You can also mix it up by playing with a toy…
8. Spice up your solo sex with a toy
From vibrators to dildos, and butt plugs to clit-sucking toys, there’s a whole world of sex toys waiting to be explored. And aside from being super fun to play and experiment with, they can give you more intense and direct pleasure than just your hands alone. Find out more about the right type of sex toy(s) for you in this complete guide.
And if you’re worrying that somehow sex toys might be bad for you, don’t worry. As our sex therapist explains in this article, this is a total myth.
9. Experiment with breast and nipple play
If you’re wondering how to touch yourself without involving the genitals, breast and nipple play is a fantastic (and often overlooked) way to increase your sexual pleasure and achieve female orgasm. In fact, up to 25% of women report having had an orgasm just through stimulation of their nipples alone.
So whether you’re new to the idea of breast and nipple play or are a seasoned veteran who would just like to get some new ideas, don’t miss these 10 hot ideas for breast play and nipplegasms. Try them out the next time you have solo sex and let the good times roll!
10. Try booty play
And last butt not least, how could we forget anal play?! If you haven’t tried it before, anal sex and booty play can be pretty intimidating. That’s why it’s best to try out booty play first in a solo sex session. That way you’re under absolutely no pressure to perform and can take all the time in the world to find what feels good. So how can you get started?
First of all, remember that unlike the vagina, the anus isn’t self-lubricating, so it’s essential to use lube. And to avoid getting a nasty infection, remember that you can stimulate the vagina followed by the anus, but not the other way around.
It’s also super important to spend time warming up your butt before you insert anything. You can help your butt to relax by massaging the area around the anus in circular motions. This should feel really good. When you feel ready, trying penetrating your anus just a little, either with a finger or a toy created specifically for anal sex, like a butt plug.
Experiment with shallow and deeper penetrations and alternate between penetration and massaging the outside of the anus. Practise contracting and releasing your anus – this will help you to orgasm during anal. You might also like to stimulate your clit at the same time with your other hand, or with a toy, and notice how the pleasure increases.
To find out more about more about booty play, checkout our guide all about anal.
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