You may not have had penetrative sex, but that doesn’t mean you haven’t had sex. Think about it: have you experienced sexual pleasure before? Have you masturbated? Fooled around? Okay, then you’ve had sex.
Virginity is a social construct. It’s a religious and cultural tool used to control women’s bodies and to establish men as the rightful owners of those bodies. It’s a myth that puts images of becoming lost, broken, and defiled at the forefront of our minds.