Want to have sex that’s (quite literally) hot and steamy? Then you need to experience the joys of shower sex. Not only is it a nice break from sex in the bedroom, it can also be a good choice when you’re on your period, and a great way to spice up your sex life. Sure, the logistics and safety aspects can be a little trickier, so that’s why we’re sharing ten hot tips to make shower sex both safe and sexy.
Tip 1: Set the scene
Arousal and desire start long before anyone gets naked, so take some time to create an inviting ambiance. Light a few candles, put on some relaxing music, raise the temperature with a seductive strip tease… anything that will put you and your partner in the mood.
And while this next part may not be quite so sexy, adding a bath mat into the equation will make your aquatic acrobatics a lot safer. Sure, we want some slipping and sliding action going on, but not the kind that lands you in the emergency room!
And while it doesn’t need to be spotless, making sure you have a clean bathroom is super important. Because you don’t want soap scum and tangled hairs in the plug hole killing the sexy vibe you’ve just created.
Tip 2: Turn up the heat
Let’s be honest, movies never show shower sex scenes where one person is warm and cozy under the shower head while the other shivers in the corner, despite this being the harsh reality for most of us. And if you’re freezing your ass off, you’re probably not going to feel in the mood.
To avoid shivering like a wet Chihuahua on a rainy day, close the bathroom door and turn the hot water on a few minutes before you go in. This way you can warm up the air temperature and get things nice and steamy before you go in. Other solutions include turning on the heating in the bathroom if you have it, or investing in a double shower head if you want to go really pro!
Tip 3: Use a silicone-based lube
You’d think that water would be an awesome lubricant, it’s wet after all, but water is actually no good for lubrication. It can also wash away your natural lubrication, drying you out and causing discomfort.
Fortunately, lube can lend a helping hand. For shower sex, or sex in any type of water really, silicone lubes are your best bet. Silicone lubricants are denser than water-based lubes and they’ll last a lot longer in the shower.
Tip 4: Find a comfortable position
Nobody really wants to be sitting on a hard, wet surface, so we suggest taking a standing position for shower sex. There are a few different positions you could take, but perhaps the simplest is standing doggy-style.
To do standing doggy-style, press your palms flat against the shower wall whilst leaning towards it with your knees slightly bent. The nice thing about this position is that it allows you to keep both feet firmly planted on the shower floor (extra points for safety) while you use your hands for extra support. Plus this position allows the other person to penetrate you from behind using a penis, sex toy, or fingers, while also allowing them to show some love to your clitoris, perineum, and other pleasure hot spots.
Tip 5: Move beyond penetration
For many people, sex is synonymous with penetration, but it’s so much more than that. Sex can include penetration, but it doesn’t have to. Your shower sex is still sex whether that involves oral or manual stimulation or pleasuring each other’s erogenous zones. For more sexpiration, check out our non-penetrative sex ideas for women.
Tip 6: Experiment with bodily fluids
Let’s get kinky! Lots of people enjoy body fluids and find it turns them on during sex. This is especially true when it comes to ejaculation, spit, urine and breast milk. If you’re interested in having some fun with any of these fluids, the shower is the perfect place to experiment. After all, you can quickly and easily wash them off you and you don’t have to worry about staining your sheets.
Of course, as with any sexual activity, you and your partner need to communicate with each other about what you are and aren’t comfortable with doing before you do it. What can be a major turn-on for one person, could be a huge turn-off and even humiliating for another.
Tip 7: Experience the pleasure of a showergasm
This one’s something you can try with a partner or during solo sex. Here’s what to do: Next time you’re in the shower, bring the (detachable) shower head close to your body. Move your hands down, and find your vulva. Allow the water to pass through your outer lips and play with different water pressures. If you find something that feels good, spend some time there enjoying those sensations.
Then little by little, with your free hand, open your outer lips, leaving your clitoris a little exposed, and explore how it feels to stimulate this area. Move the shower head in circular motions, from the top to the bottom of your vulva. Again, if you find something that’s enjoyable, keep doing it and enjoy the delights of the showergasm!
Tip 8: Don’t forget your bath toys!
There are tons of waterproof sex toys out there ranging from vibrators, to G-zone and blended orgasm toys, nipple stimulators and clit suckers. So take your pick and have some fun. If you’re not sure what kind of toy would work best for you, check out Emjoy’s sex toy guide.
Tip 9: Wash each other
With all this talk of sex, it’s easy to forget one of the most basic and pleasurable things you can do in the shower – wash each other! While it’s already pretty hot to get up close and personal in the water together, washing each other can really add to the excitement. So lather up that soap or shower gel on each other’s bodies while making eye contact and get ready for a super sensual experience. This can be done as part of foreplay or after you’ve had sex.
Tip 10: Remember aftercare
You might associate the word “aftercare” with the BDSM world, but no matter what sex looks like for you, a little after care can go a long way to making you and your partner feel safe and loved. This could include cuddling, kissing, talking, giving each other a sensual massage or in the case of shower sex, drying each other off. Aside from being super intimate and pleasurable, these kinds of activities are a great way to strengthen the bond between you and your partner. Oh, and if your sex involves any penis-vulva action, always pee after sex. You can thank us later when you avoid getting a UTI.
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