5 Kinky Sex Ideas to Spice Up Your Sex Life

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September 21, 2022
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5 Kinky Sex Ideas to Spice Up Your Sex Life
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It can be difficult to keep sex exciting in a long-term relationship. And even if you’re having a blast in solo sex, it’s easy to fall into a rut. So if you want to spice up your sex life, check out these 5 kinky sex ideas and try something new. 

But first, let’s make sure we’re on the same page.

What is kinky sex?

Put simply, sex is kinky when it involves any sexual practices or behaviors considered unconventional. This includes many BDSM practices, like bondage, spanking, power play and wax play.  But while you might think a certain practice is kinky, for another person it may seem totally vanilla.

But for the sake of this article, we’re going to share 5 sex ideas that we think most people would probably find pretty kinky, and which we think can bring something new and exciting to your sex life. 

5 Kinky Sex Ideas

1. Release your inner exhibitionist

Are you turned on by the thought of someone watching you undress or having sex? If so, you might want to turn your exhibitionist fantasies into reality. And don’t worry, you don’t need to get it on in a public sex dungeon to enjoy the thrill of being watched – unless you want to of course, in which case, go for it!

a sexy strip tease can be a super hot way to indulge your inner exhibitionist

How about donning your sexiest lingerie and giving a sexy strip tease to your partner? Or enrolling in burlesque classes and putting on a show for an entire crowd? Not only can it do wonders for your self-confidence and body image, it can help you to embrace your inner sex goddess between the sheets.

Other ways to indulge in a bit of exhibitionism include sending sexy nudes (just make sure it’s safe and consensual), making your own sex tape (which you can decide to share or not), and having sex in public somewhere you could get caught. The possibilities are endless! 

2. Indulge your voyeuristic side

On the flip side, if you’re aroused by the idea of watching people undress or having sex, voyeuristic activities may be what get your juices flowing. Just like with exhibitionism, you don’t need to go to a sex party or public sex dungeon to indulge your voyeuristic tendencies.

Instead you could ask your partner to give you a sexy strip tease or send you nudes, watch an erotic film or porn to turn you on, or watch yourself having sex in front of a mirror. You can decide how far to go. 

3. Experiment with body fluids

Lots of people enjoy body fluids and find it turns them on during sex. This is especially true when it comes to ejaculation. One way to incorporate ejaculate into sexual play is to experiment with ejaculating in different areas: on the butt, the breasts, the mouth, the face and the feet (which can be super hot for anyone with a foot fetish).

If you’re a vagina owner, you can also have a lot of fun with squirting. If you’ve never experienced it before you can find out what it is and how to do it in Emjoy’s Beginner’s Guide to Squirting. And don’t worry if it doesn’t happen for you. Lots of women never experience squirting but there are a million other ways you can experience pleasure. You’re not missing out. 

Experiment with body fluids

Other body fluids you can experiment with include spit, urine and breast milk. While you might not like a fluid usually, you might find it incredibly arousing within the context of sex. So try to keep an open mind. Your favorite sexual activity could be something you’ve never tried before.

Of course, as with any sexual activity, you and your partner need to communicate with each other about what you are and aren’t comfortable with doing before you do it. What can be a major turn-on for one person, could be a huge turn-off and even humiliating for another. 

4. Mix it up with power play

Power play is a super popular kink. After all, if you’re used to working or acting in a position of power, it can feel incredibly liberating to relinquish control to another person and vice versa. Some people like to switch dominant and submissive roles from time to time, but usually people have a preference.

To get started, think about some of your sexual fantasies. Does a manager/employee dynamic turn you on? How about a queen and her servant? Or a sexy patient and doctor encounter? Whatever it is that gets your heart racing, talk about it with your partner. If you’re both up for it, why not try it out? 

And if you enjoy dressing up, this is a great opportunity to have fun with some sexy outfits and try out any clothing fetishes you might have.

5. Spice it up with sex toys

They’re called sex “toys” for a reason – they’re a lot of fun! And just like regular toys, there’s a massive variety and something for everyone. From classic vibrators to clitoral suction toys, dildos, strap ons, butt plugs, penis rings, floggers, paddles, nipple clamps, and vibrating panties, there’s a whole world of toys out there waiting to be discovered. 

sex toys are a great way to spice things up in the bedroom

If you’d like to find out more about the different types of sex toys and what they do, make sure to read our Complete Guide to Sex Toys. Then you can surprise your partner with a toy you think they’d like, or treat yourself to a sexy little gift. Because you’re worth it! 

Spice Up Your Sex Life with Emjoy

While remaining in your comfort zone is, well, comfortable, you can get so much pleasure from discovering your body, exploring your likes and dislikes, and learning new sex techniques. So download the Emjoy app to create a personalized sexual wellbeing journey and learn new ways to spice up your sex life and more. 

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