Mark your calendar and forget about your plan to go to the gym tonight! It’s International Female Orgasm Day, y’all! Ohhhh yes!
Did you wake up all excited and tingly this morning? No? You should have! August 8 is the official World Day of Female Orgasm!
Why today? Why did you not know about this before? Is it just about pleasure or also about politics?
We’ll answer all your questions so you have time to think of ways to celebrate this glorious day with as much pleasure as possible.
An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!
So let’s take a look at how it all started. In 2006, the Councilor of Esperantina (Brazil), José Arimateia Dantas Lacerda, promoted a law to defend sexual pleasure in women, study it and address it as a matter of public health.
Dantas realized that especially women were not satisfied with their sexuality and had a hard time to climax, struggling to get their pleasure. A survey was issued to investigate the matter further and concluded that the situation should change because it was "a matter of public health”, due to all the health benefits orgasms produce. The initiative went viral and in the end, August 8 has been adopted worldwide as International Female Orgasm Day. Or as we call it: Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. Thursday. Friday. Saturday. Sunday.
The pleasure gap
13 years have passed since the proclamation of Female Orgasm Day, but the pleasure gap is still existing till today. So why did we all not learn more during the last couple of years? One reason is of course that we don’t only need one day during the year to remind ourselves of the greatness of the female orgasm and all its’ health benefits; it’s a matter of constant practice and also a matter of truly understanding your own body, your wants and needs and how to fill you daily life with small and arousing pleasures that are already waiting for you in your mind and body!
Additionally, we, as a society, need to do some serious myth busting surrounding the subject of female orgasm and anatomy, so women (and men) can have a whole new (and way more satisfying!) understanding of female sexuality.
We started Emjoy with exactly those goals in mind. We want to help you get a better understanding about your body, help you love yourself more, feel better in your skin and learn pleasure techniques that arouse both your body and mind in ways you haven’t imagined before. Oh and did we mention that by doing so you’ll live healthier and happier for sure?
Say it loud, say it proud: It’s all about the clit!
The idea of penis-vagina sex remains widespread as the "normal" form of our idea of "having sex". This should be one of the first things we have to erase from our minds, once and for all! Repeat after us (and tons of studies on the matter):
The big majority of women need stimulation of the clitoris to orgasm. Penetrative sex is not enough!
That said, penetrative sex can also lead some women to orgasm, but that is also happening because part of the clitoris is touching the walls of the vagina which can be stimulated by penetration. We have more on this in one of our female anatomy sessions, if you’re interested!
The most important fact remains: We can't talk about female orgasm without talking about the clitoris! So: Let’s get cliterate!
Get cliterate and stop faking it!
So what’s the current reality of female orgasms? Studies suggest that half or almost half of us fake orgasms frequently. We pretend to have fun, when actually we aren’t and we pretend to climax even though we don’t. We’ve probably all done it. Either it’s because we feel guilty or think it’s what our partners want to hear or, or…. It does not matter, really, does it? Let’s stop the nonsense. Let’s not fake orgasms anymore! Why should we?
So, yes. It’s alarming to realize that only one partner is constantly and truly enjoying sex, while the other partner is faking it. But there’s hope! Did you know that when women masturbate, between 75-80% have no problems to climax and that women in homosexual relationships almost always reach orgasm? So don’t despair!
There are many factors that can influence whether or not to reach orgasm in a sexual encounter. But in all of them we can take an active role to improve how we feel so that we can all live our sexuality more freely and happily.
Reinventing “good sex”
As you can see, studies urge us to move forward and reach a more satisfying status quo for both sides of the bed. The best thing we can do is to learn more about the female orgasm and know ourselves better. This is not only important for women to fully understand their own body, it’s also essential that men (or partners in general) learn more about female orgasms if we all want to have truly satisfying sexual relationships.
Our sexual power is often not fully activated, even though it is so powerful!
We would like to invite you to become aware of your body in new ways. Knowing yourself - all off you: your mind, your body, your desires, what you like and also what you don’t like is the master key to a whole new relationship with yourself and your sexuality.
Your body is a wonderland!
- The brain: Yes! It’s the most powerful sexual organ. Because it’s the place where orgasms occur, because it is where we can change our ideas and beliefs, because it is where sensory and emotional stimuli arouse our desire. The brain is our primary tool for sexual satisfaction.
- The clitoris, of course! The jewel in your crown and the only organ of the human being created exclusively for pleasure. Understanding the clitoris and knowing how to stimulate it is the key to orgasms. Love your clit! It’s your treasure spot.
- Love yourself! All parts and sides of you. Respect yourself. Know yourself. The most satisfying sexual relationship of your life should be the one with yourself. You are your most important lover and you know best how to make your body and mind happy. Learn what you want and like and how to give yourself the pleasure you deserve!
Fall in love with yourself and your body!
Orgasmic inequality is a reality. But so is the power of female orgasms and all the health benefits that come with it! If you don’t feel like you are living your sexuality to its full potential, don’t worry! It’s a journey. But one that’s fun in every way!
Don’t forget that your sexual pleasure is essential! Let’s all try to become more sex- and body-positive and understand and believe that our sexual pleasure is important.
We deserve it! We already have the necessary tools to activate all the powers that lie within our bodies and minds.So cancel all your plans for tonight and add this to your To-Do List:
Celebrate Female Orgasm Day and Emjoy!