3 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life When Routine Gets in the Way


The Emjoy Team

September 23, 2021
3 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life When Routine Gets in the Way
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Human beings are, by nature, creatures of habit. So when life gets busy, it’s easy to fall into certain routines, sexual or otherwise, and it can be hard to break them. But, did you know that when it comes to sex and sexual stimulation, we’re actually the total opposite? Humans are wired for novelty in the bedroom. So when we find ourselves having sex with the same person, in the same way, every time, the novelty wears off pretty fast. But don’t worry, there are ways to stop this. Here are three simple ways you can spice up your sex life and beat bedroom boredom

Make time for your partner

This one seems pretty obvious, but when life gets in the way, we don’t make time to prioritize our relationships (... and sex? What’s that?). When our workload piles up, or social commitments arise, and the precious time we have for ourselves dwindles, it’s not easy to find the time. But, it’s not impossible!

Think about your week. Do you consider intimate time with your partner a priority compared to other commitments you make? You might go to the gym three times a week, or only reserve takeout for weekends. You may realize that you make these commitments, but leave out the most fun one! 

Think about your routine and add date night to your priority list. You might need to cut back on some other activities, but maybe you can combine them. After all, you could skip the gym but still have a pretty sweaty workout with your partner ;)

Talk about your fantasies together

Almost everyone has sexual fantasies, and has them frequently, but developing sexual fantasies has nothing to do with sexual dissatisfaction. Actually, it’s the opposite. 

However, many of us have never shared these fantasies with our partners, let alone acted on them. It’s up to you if you want to communicate your fantasies or not. Some are private, and this is normal and healthy. Take some time to clarify if you want to keep a fantasy private or if it’s something you would like to try.

Here’s a tip: fantasize about sexual experiences you have, or haven’t had, and picture what you like. Is this something you want to act out with your partner? If so, talk about those fantasies with them. Who knows, it might be something you both want to try. Even if that's not the case, you'll have still worked on your communication skills and learned more about each other.

Forbid an activity you always fall back on

We know what you’re thinking, but hear us out. Routine sex tends to start and end the same way. You know what you like, and what your partner likes, and vice versa. While these tried and tested techniques usually result in climax, it’s not necessarily stimulating for the mind if you know what’s coming and how (pun intended). 

To help you break these habits and try new things, try playing a game with your partner: think of an activity that you regularly do in the bedroom and forbid it for at least two weeks. 

You and your partner should choose together and it needs to be something you’ll both miss. For example, if you have a lot of oral sex, it’s not allowed for two weeks. Or maybe you always have sex in bed, at the end of the day. Instead, try to find another time (or place!) to have sex.

Emjoy collections for breaking routines 

So, there you have it: three tips for breaking sexual routines and habits when life gets in the way and kills the mood. If you’re looking for more ways to break bedroom routines, try the Arouse Your Mind and Partner Play collections on Emjoy! Download the app and rediscover passion and pleasure.

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